Konstantinos, nephew of Keroularios, invited Psellos to his (second) wedding, saying it would be solemn and appropriate for a monk. A wedding, Psellos replied, was a wedding, and rules forbad his attendance at some stages. He also reminded Konstantinos that another monk, Ioannes of Side, would have similar problems. Psellos wrote to Konstantinos again, regretting he could not attend all the wedding, fearing gossip. As a monk, he could speak at the beginning, but for feasting and music (despite his musical expertise) he could only be a distant spectator. He congratulated Konstantinos that his new wife seemed to him the prettiest woman in the palace (apart from Konstantinos' incomparable mother): he wished the splendid couple health and prosperity. Psellos attended the wedding and in a third letter admitted it had been a much more "philosophical" ceremony than he had feared (some details given). The wedding had brought Psellos and Konstantinos closer together, via Konstantinos' mother and brother Nikephoros